Quantum reality, floating & intention in relationships: The power of letting go

Walking home from town one weekend, Mark, my partner and I were talking about quantum physics and cranial osteopathy.

There are some interesting parallels between coaching and osteopathy, because they can both operate at a very subtle level - what some people call the quantum level. One of the greats of British cranial osteopathy, Nicholas Handoll, wrote about this in his book Anatomy of Potency. The book introduces the idea that quantum physics might explain how cranial osteopathy works.

In my conversation with Mark we went on to talk about the power of intention. And something I call floating openness.

Intention can be a powerful force, whether it is used in osteopathy, in personal growth or in our relationships.

I hold space for the body or for the mind with the intention of encouraging change and growth. In the context of osteopathy we would have called this facilitating or encouraging the body to express health. In coaching it’s about facilitating the client to express health through their mind.

But of course whatever we do, we are working with the body-mind (even if we don’t intend to – hence the power of placebo).

Floating openness is about releasing something from a bind. It’s hardly surprising that things change when we lift them away from whatever has been binding them down. When I was practising as an osteopath, this was a technique I was rather fond of because it yielded results as if by magic.

It’s a little like opening the lid of a jar which has got stuck – sometimes when we screw it down further, it releases and then yields and opens.

So it is with bodies and minds and with relationships.

There are lots of things we allow to bind us down – like ropes tethering us. In order to float we have to let go.

It’s a bit like a dream Mark had years ago, where he was watching people in a swimming pool attempting to stay afloat whilst holding on to heavy baggage. And in spite of his suggestion that they drop their bags and swim, they would not let go. So they could not get to the other side of the pool.

A relationship can be a place in which we practise floating openness and allow intention to carry us forward. And it works best if we let go of the baggage which is pulling us under. Sometimes this is baggage from a past relationship and sometimes it's from our childhood. It may consist of beliefs we hold about ourselves (such as 'I'm not good enough') or beliefs about others (such as men are all aggressive or women are all manipulative).

I know that this pattern of holding onto old baggage has been my experience in the past, and that it’s a common problem in relationships. It keeps us stuck in an endless loop which never resolves, so we’re unable to get to the other side.

If you're holding onto baggage like this it will get in the way of moving forward. When you let go you'll find it easier to move with your intentions towards whatever it is you dream about.

To get my help with letting go of the baggage which is holding you back, book a Clarity Call - there's no charge for it and you may find yourself starting to let go while we talk.